My moms 80th b-day we`re planning a big surprise party for her but i need help with the theme,?

80 is a big deal in our family since most of the family has passed on in thier 50s , 60s or 70s ,she was born %26amp; raised in Ga. %26amp; she loves her flowers %26amp; the color purple or lavender so i was thinking of a wisteria %26amp; lace theme with the colors lavender %26amp; green with lace table clothes, any ideas or web sights to check out for ideas would be so helpfull , the food will be catered to make it easyer on my sister %26amp; i, she has out lived all her sisters, my father %26amp; 2 sons so we want this to be very special since her health is failing %26amp; we dont know how much longer she will be with us, p.s. she allso has alzihmers so her memory is`nt real sharp any more ,but stuff like this seems to stay with her longer then other stuff.the party is in july %26amp; will be in a rented hall since no one has a house big enough to hold it at ,so there goes a big part of our budget since we are retired %26amp; live on a limited budget our selfs. THANKS

My moms 80th b-day we`re planning a big surprise party for her but i need help with the theme,?
i think what you have planned sounds perfect, but you might also want to add some of the pictures from before her mind started to slip... my dad had dementia and he couldnt recall much from yesterday or today, but ask him about 50 years ago and it may as well have happened yesterday! he knew every little detail.





here is a great website for helping you figure things out...


http://www.party411.com/partyplan.html


most of all, don't OVERPLAN so she has no time to visit with her loved ones, and don't keep her up too long, as she will get bored or even mean quickly if she is uncomfortable. even though she has memory problems, you should tell her well in advance about her party, even now would be good- so that she can possibly know whats going on when the time comes.


Alzheimers is a difficult disease to plan around- good luck
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Site above might be helpful. Your birthday plan sounds wonderful. I would call and visit some Travel Agencies and get every picture poster they would give me of anything Georgia-ish. Just say homesick Octogenarian and they will help you to get large pictorals. Could drape the hall with them, strung up with all her favorite colors. Then some music put together on a long playing tape - can start with 'Georgia On My Mind'. Those flowers you mentioned and family photos like another answer suggested. Add her favorite foods. Ought to do it. Simple = fun.
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WE gto alot of pictures from my grandmas shild hood and all her life and got a cam corder and put music in the background and went alongthe pictures. the song was wind beneath my wings by bette midler..... were goign through all her life, maybe u should do that.
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Reply:using greens as the main part of the flower arrangements could save you big $$ too - use just a few dramatic purple blooms in each to make them pop. This on a white lace tablecloth with purple napkins would be really beautiful!





You could get some green garlands to hang around the doors of the hall - and if you can, add white christmas lights would be beautiful.





Find out what kind of sound system the hall has and if you should bring CDs or if you can plug in an ipod if you have one.





Big band music would be great fun!





If there will be dancing it might be fun to hire a couple of ballroom dancers to entertain the crowd and get them up on their feet.





You could take old photos and have them put on a cd or made into slides and have them projected on a continuous loop on either a blank wall or a screen. The hall or a photographers studio could help you with this.





You could take an old photo of her, get some small silver frames in bulk (you can get them for a dollar or two online) and use these as placecards and take home gifts.





just one idea - have you thought about doing the party early in the day? My grandmother who suffered from Alzheimers used to be in much better spirits the earlier it was.





it's a lovely idea - have fun celebrating with her!